Definition of Life and Memories.

Last night, there was this person (can’t disclose the real name) messaged me in Windows Live Messenger (or msn) and told me about something he is facing. His problem was kind of common, but a little intricate. He told me that her father is having an affair and the family is falling apart with his siblings and everyone in his family is getting mad over squabbles of their own problems. He’s getting frail day by day and contemplating suicide. It’s perceivable that he may resort to such thought when he’s caught in so many dilemmas. He has procured a better family since years ago when all the discord and complications arose, but to no avail. He’s almost out of his sane mind.

When I saw all his messages, it was like a great blow to my heart to think that such thing does happen. What I can advice on is based on solid facts, thus I told him that a family is like several person carrying a log, huge log. When one person of the group is completely jaded, he still bears the responsibility of delivering the log to the destination. If he fails to toil upon the adverse situation, then the burden will be increased to the other members, ended up others have to suffer based on one’s lack of determination. We, as a human don’t live for pleasure lying ahead of us. For every pleasure we intend to attain, the more burden we have to carry. Nothing can be gained without effort.

There is a Chinese saying, one will die, you can either make your death precious and valuable, or you can die as a nobody. I know it’s not really applicable in that guy’s situation because he will not be gaining any fame or respect by just solving another plight in this world. Sometimes I wonder, since we’re going to live only once, so who cares if I intend to leave the onus to other people, as fame and prominence will not resurrect me from the grave and let me reign the world as I craved. Ironically, the opinion I made by myself has an answer to it. Since we only have one life to live, so why waste it by tarnishing the name of our forefathers? It may be frivolous to mention, but you know the torment of carrying the burden, so why let more people suffer?

As apart from some people, they provide reasonable solutions, where even the person in dilemma can thought of it. Therefore I don’t really give advice on how one should do, instead, I tell them to do what they thought is right. We are one person on earth, living one life, making one decision for every problem, one outcome to receive, hence, it’s pointless for someone to tell you what to do as you will waste that one “token” to your problem. If the problem remain unresolved, you’ll then feeling anguish for heeding the advice, problems will only get worse. So, one should use his opportunity wisely, thus when an effort to no avail, at least one has attempted, toiled, tried and shall bear no regrets to his decision.