Definition of Life and Memories.

Chapter 3 – Leadership and respect test : Firm
Barely an hour before this post, I was actually on the way to the bus stop with my brother and his friends (they were my brother’s friends, and became mine after numerous times of hangouts) to go to Genting. We were having breakfast before going to the bus stop, and there was an argument between my brother and I, during the quarrel he told me that “if you’re not contented, then you don’t have to go (with the trip)” and I replied “ok” as an acknowledgement that I’m counting myself out for the trip.

Upon reaching the stop I was supposed to find a place to park my car to wait and board the bus with them. But instead I told them that I wasn’t going and they were stunned incredulously, they never thought that I would take my words seriously. And it ended up I didn’t go despite a phone call from one of them, although deep in my heart it really hurt much as hanging out with the friends is not something that can be done often and spontaneously.

Firm, is the language of leadership, it gets you respect and followers. In the past people always disrespect me because I wasn’t firm with my words. What I meant and intended were the opposite of the words I articulated, and finally my friends did not take my words seriously and it has given me a slew of troubles, really.

Which fool in the world would give up an astonishing trip with his buddies? I wouldn’t, but if it wasn’t for building respect (being firm), I am dying to go for the trip.

There are reasons behind being firm, it’s not solely to display your personality ostentatiously so that people would notice and take note of what you say in the future. Firstly, in a yes-no option, since you have to take a stand eventually, why not weigh up all the gains and losses for each option and then stay with it? Secondly, yes it’s to make people afraid of you and not to take you lightly (when you mean something you say). Thirdly, being firm is not a personality, it’s a principle – You are firm because you have faith and believe that what you’re about to do and decide is correct, not merely for the sake of the above two reasons. Fourthly, respect. Which leader in the world always speaks in jest and has no account for what he has said?

Some would think that it is stupid to give up something that I’m dying for to prove that I am firm. But if it will benefit me in the future, I would no matter what. Maybe some of you have already “proven” your rigidity, but I’m on it now, so should I writing my apology script now in case if it pisses off my friends? haha