http://www.kojieyang.com/confession/voice-of-the-renaissance-guy/ Wed, 28 Oct 2009 08:32:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 http://www.kojieyang.com/confession/voice-of-the-renaissance-guy/comment-page-1/#comment-448 Caffy Sun, 31 May 2009 16:21:10 +0000 http://kojieyang.com/?p=240#comment-448 The new you. I never really understood (at least not recently) what's the big hoo-hah about gaining acceptance from anyone. It doesn't really make sense. You said gain acceptance from "friends", yet I find people you (well I, really) have to strive to gain acceptance from not real friends. You look for friends that are on the same wavelength as yourself, not hang out with whoever and struggle to fit in. So really trying to be someone you're not with the aim of "fitting in" is just like volunteering yourself for torture without any real, concrete reason. I don't see the point in trying so hard to be this person everyone is, anyway. At the end it doesn't bring happiness but pain. But maybe it's just me, I've learned that it's pointless to grovel for acceptance all the time. Just don't think friendship works that way. The new you.
I never really understood (at least not recently) what’s the big hoo-hah about gaining acceptance from anyone. It doesn’t really make sense. You said gain acceptance from “friends”, yet I find people you (well I, really) have to strive to gain acceptance from not real friends. You look for friends that are on the same wavelength as yourself, not hang out with whoever and struggle to fit in. So really trying to be someone you’re not with the aim of “fitting in” is just like volunteering yourself for torture without any real, concrete reason.
I don’t see the point in trying so hard to be this person everyone is, anyway. At the end it doesn’t bring happiness but pain. But maybe it’s just me, I’ve learned that it’s pointless to grovel for acceptance all the time. Just don’t think friendship works that way.

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